The reflection of our personal mirror.
A couple of weeks ago, a dear Vitiligan friend said something to me that has been stuck in my mind ever since. She was telling me her story about her journey with vitiligo, about the hard process that it was for a while, to deal with the changes. All until one day she realized that in her reflection she wasn’t seeing her spots anymore.
After she said that I realized that it is completely true that everything that we project is what the other person is going to see. There is a part in our lives that we can be so hard to ourselves and when we look into our mirror, all we can see is those imperfections that are sticking out (or at least that’s how we see it). We are so consumed to be perfect or comparing ourselves to others that we don’t really take a close look to that person in the mirror.
A long time ago, and I can’t say for sure how long it was or what was the deal breaker, but there was one day that I stopped seeing my spots when I looked in the mirror. And I believe that has been one of the main reasons why most of the people in my life didn't really made me feel any different. Because, if I sometimes forget they exist, why would they be the ones to remember?
We forget that we are able to choose what others get to see about us, we have the opportunity to show what really matters, what makes us unique, what makes us humans.
If all we can see is the “negative” side of things, that is what people will perceived and look at. But if we embrace our uniqueness, there is no other option but to see it how we see it; as a perk, as a quality, as something that is so a part of us in a good way that they can’t imagine you without it.
All I can wish for, is that you too, someday look into the mirror and simply love what you see, be thankful for every part of you, embrace your beauty… because everything starts there, with that person you see in the other side of the mirror.
Beautiful image by Karla Gallardo, made with love for Vitiligo International Day.